Advice for new dads: 20 dads weigh-in

In a new “Ask a Dad” series we’re starting today, we asked parents from our dads-only group to answer this question:

What advice would you give to a soon-to-be dad?

Here are the answers we received:

1. “Get in the trenches and be involved from the beginning. Dads are important.” -Kyle

2. “Be prepared to change your way of life the next couple of years. You’ll still have late nights, but they’ll be spent rocking your new little one to sleep instead of rocking the night away with your buds.” – Joe Johnson

3. “Don’t be afraid of poopy diapers. They aren’t that bad, you made the stink creator… You can do it!!!” -Joe Ward

4. “Get your rest now. Your life will change in the best possible way…”

5. “No matter how scared you are, your natural parental instincts will take over, and you will do a great job. This was advice given to me by a dear friend and stands true.”

6. “If you’re worried about your budget, learn to waste less and save more. Being frugal and thrifty will make life with a newborn much easier. It’s best to put aside some savings for a rainy day or any unexpected trips to the doctor.” – Ethan S.

7. “You and your baby momma, whether it’s a wife, girlfriend, whoever it may be, are a team now. Regardless of what we say or think, they’ve carried that child inside them and have a strong bond from the get go. Support that and have patience, your time will come. Discuss everything and come to an agreement. Compromise is everything. Nourish your relationship with her and it’ll make things all the better for your child.”

8. “Remember… they are always watching what you do… even at a young age”

9. “The greatest thing you will ever accomplish in your life is about to happen. You’re about to be a dad. Your whole life is about to change for the better and you may never sleep again for the next 5-6 years, but it will get easier ha-ha”

10. “Capture every moment you can. It goes by so fast. Also do your part. You and the mom are a team. Do what you can to keep that relationship strong as well as taking care of the baby. Could be something as simple as taking the kid off of her so she can take a nap.”

11. “Do the night feedings if possible…. silent time is great bonding time”

12. “Be understanding, even though you’ll be trying to work and still help with the baby. Remember that your significant other is just as tired, if not more than you are so be understanding to her feelings and help out with the little one any way you can. Even if you’re nervous or scared, still try your best to be there for her and your baby.”

13. “Start a savings account for each kid. Twenty bucks a week is nothing. But years later when your kid is thinking about driving a car [or going to college] that money will go a long way.”

14. “Be prepared to adapt; what works for others will not always work for you or your wee one. Work with mama always to be a united front. The twerp is the boss for now, once he/she is older though, do not forget to say no.” -Barry Arnold

15. “For a first time dad, I will say 2 things… 1. Good choice… And 2. Don’t give up!”

16. “No matter what happens or how much stress you’re under, always remember that at the end of the day, your children will always love and appreciate your time with them. If it’s going to the store, or going to the pharmacy, or even getting a drink from the gas station, your children will remember absolutely everything that you do with them! Never ever let the stress of your life and responsibilities ruin your self-esteem; you may not have the best things, or the fancy car, house, or job, but your children couldn’t care less about any of that. ALWAYS ALWAYS be grateful for your time with your children… because sometimes that time is taken for granted.” -Seth

17. “Be open to new ideas and to learning new things.”

18. “Do not rush to pick them up when they fall, someday you will not be there.”

19. “Starting off as a new dad, you will not know everything, but you will learn to be great and you will learn that no matter what, you will be the first hero of your child. You have to be like the person you want them to be when they grow up, and you can’t let them down because a father is a child’s first and last hero….” -Dustin Kast

20. “First: Our kids learn from watching us, model the behavior you want them to have. Second: Be consistent in rules/punishment/rewards. Third: It’s just a scraped knee, you don’t have to go crazy whenever your kid gets hurt. Fourth: Cuddle time is the best time, always be available for it.”

And a piece of bonus advice:

21. “FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, LET THE MAMA SLEEP!!!” -Cade

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Ethan Ruzzano Written by:

Ethan is a former musician and artist who is in love with being a dad. He balances his time between family, work and his other passions. He lives in Denver, Colorado with his wife, Casie and daughter, Olivia.

2 Comments

  1. Scott
    April 25
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    Listen, really listen, turn off the TV, the radio, the computer, look at them and listen

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